Five Wishes

If you had one wish, what would it be? Many people are prepared to ask for at least three wishes with hopes to either gain wealth, love and happiness. However, Five Wishes are a part of a patients wishes for their care and how they want things to work out during the final stages of life. It is recognized and honored by the hospital staff.

It was during the end of summer, when I held the booklet in my hand and reviewed it with my brother who was in the hospital after being diagnosed with pancreatic cancer (Stage 4). The diagnosis was a shock to all of us and although I understood the severity of his condition, my brother was standing strong in his faith and was determined to become as he puts it – a testimony to the miracles of God. Needless to say, the task of having any conversation that involves death was difficult.

Here’s the essential part, we were raised in a house that centered around Christian values based on love and compassion complete with having a strong faith in God – knowing that all things are possible, miracles can happen, if you believe. Therefore, it is only natural that he invokes his faith as he listened earnestly to spiritual and inspirational sermons.

There I was sitting in the chair next to his bed, reviewing the pages of Five Wishes. I finally mustered up the courage to discuss the importance of being prepared in the event that he has a set back and could not communicate at any point, and although I was his Health Proxy, I needed to ask him a few questions. I wanted to be sure that I was making the best decisions with a good understanding of his own desires.

We were able to complete the questions and my brother was able to continue on in his faith for healing. I was relieved to know that my brother’s wishes were clearly defined and served as a guide for the staff and everyone else. If you or a family member is interested in completing the Five Wishes please ask a member of your healthcare team.